My colleagues at work tell me that if we “work” hard at getting pregnant, and want it enough, we definitely will ! In fact, my mother in law is even suggesting that the fact that I am not conceiving means that subconsciously I do not wish to have a baby ( because it may interfere with my career) and that this psychological barrier is the reason for our infertility.
Unlike many other parts of your lives, infertility may be beyond your control. Don’t blame yourself if you are not getting pregnant – it’s a medical problem which often needs appropriate medical treatment. The attitudes you are encountering are often born out of ignorance – and are a kind of “victim-blaming” – ignore them!